The Horrible Truth Of Envy
“Envy is the ulcer of the soul”
Envy is the discontentment you feel when you see someone doing better than you are both personally or professionally. You want their possessions, qualities, and physique. You feel resentment towards them, you don’t only wish that you had what they had but you also want them to have no success at all. Envy consumes your whole being, you can’t stop comparing and thinking about all the things you lack that you deserve.
In Greek mythology, it was Hera’s envy for aphrodite beauty that caused the trojan war. The epic Mahabharata happened because of Duryodhana’s envy for his cousins Pandavas.
Envy is often interchanged with jealousy, but it is not the same as jealousy. Jealousy is a fear of losing what you have, like a partner or spouse to someone else whereas the cause of envy is the underlying issue of unworthiness.
Envy is a hidden feeling, you are more likely to be envious of a friend or relative whom you compare yourself with rather than a stranger. Envy erodes you, it leads to resentment which can sour relationships. An envious person devalues the achievements of its competitors.
Envy leads to hate that we feel for others, this hate is the projection of inner self-hate and self-pity it eats one from inside its the bitter truth that no one wants to accept.
Most people believe Money cannot buy happiness, yet when someone rich and famous open up about their mental health or suicidal instinct our first thought is they have millions in the bank, what problems can they possibly have? They have everything, so what are they complaining about?. Our hypocrisy knows no bounds.
Envy can motivate you to work hard to achieve all that you desire, but if not maneuvered correctly it can ruin you. The effects of envy are corrosive, so its best to control it sooner than later.
Envy causes many mental health problems like anxiety and depression. All the negative thoughts lead to personal unhappiness, self-doubt. Intense envy can also lead to physical problems like increased heart rate, sweating, and feeling sick to the stomach.
So it’s better to get hold of your emotions sooner than later, it can prevent you from ruining your relationships and your health.
Accept your emotions, stop living in denial
Sit in solitude and realize why you are envious of someone, what is it you wish to have, Accept that these feelings are human, and try to understand them. Realize what is it that you want, set new goals to achieve them.
Recognize Other People’s Effort
It must not have been easy for someone to build a million-dollar company or get six-pack abs, rather than diminishing their hard work by assuming that they got lucky, accept the effort it would have taken to achieve those things, their sacrifices, and struggle.
Ward off the negative thoughts
Negativity is not going to do you any good, it will squash your motivation and inspiration it will prevent you from reaching your true potential so do yourself a favor and think positively. Focus on your achievements and celebrate them, acknowledge how far you have come in life.
Concentrate On Yourself
Stop wasting your time and energy, thinking about what others are doing. Your sole focus should be on you, how you can better yourself to achieve your goals.
Stop comparing yourself to others, your journey is different from them. Surround yourself with positive, creative, and intelligent people who motivate and inspire you to be a better human.
Man will do many things to get himself loved; he will do all things to get himself envied -Mark Twain